January 16, 2008
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I would do anything for love… but I won’t do that…
Taken from my personal IM’s:
Lela: how do you feel about xxxxx?
Lela: i was just doing some journal searches
Lela: for prospective schools
Lela: and the majority of them seem to be international
Joe: oh?
Joe: so xxxxx specifically? or internationally in general
Joe: makes sense to go somewhere you actually speak the language
Lela: humph
Lela: you’re always limiting me!
Joe: :p
Joe: I’ll do a lot of things for you, but I draw the line at Swahili
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Lela: it could be romantic
Lela: the lions roaring in the distance
Joe: hahaSeriously, how does one win in an argument against her? ^_^ (The woman, not the random baby she’s commandeered)
How far would you go (either in principle or in reality) for your loved ones?
[EDIT:] Haha oops. It seems people have taken the conversation a bit too literaly. I meant, is there anything you wouldn’t do for a loved one? What if it challenged your morals, or principles? Anywho, here is our conversation after reading some of your comments.Lela: you see what responses you get from xanga?
Lela: it shows that you are not really into our relationship
Lela: or committed to our love
Joe: any other language sure
Joe: but not Swahili
Joe: it is against my principles
Lela: ::sob::
Lela: what’s wrong with swahili?
Joe: i know this all fits into your Lion king fantasy
Joe: but you’re not Nalla
Joe: and I’m not Simba
Lela: and [Joe's big brother] could be Scar!
Lela: ooooooohh!Sigh… I really do love her ^_^
Comments (16)
When BF and I were only dating maybe a yearish, there was talk of him moving to RTP (Research Triangle Park) for work/training. Ideally he’d be returning to NY in a year or two, but it was understood I’d move with him. RTP is in Raleigh-Durham-Chapel Hill (Uh… North Carolina I think). I’m a city girl, through and through and through to the core. I like my wide variety of restaurants at which to eat, with its wide choice of cuisine, I like being able to hop on public transportation, and my lifestyle would have drastically changed. Yes, I’d have done it for him, even though I also would have slowly gone insane from not working (it was unnecessary and I wouldn’t have been able to find a job with my skillset paying what I’m used to, and he would be making more than enough to cover both of us, since renting a huge 3br HOUSE down there was like $800 a month).
Thankfully, he wound up deciding against going up that ladder in this company and has stayed in NYC. I breathed a sigh of relief when it was bounced around that he might go to the San Jose office; SF is much more my speed.
I came to the US without a job or a school acceptance for my then boy friend, now husband. I am happy with that decision now, but it was really hard to adjust.
As far as they need me to go.
to the cross, man…..
to the cross.
It’s the sacrifices spouse’s make for each other that can be recognized by all…
makes marriage/relationship worthwile.
i wouldn’t kill someone, unless it was self defense. also, i wouldn’t let her put makeup on me…
My wife and I have a great relationship.
She tells me what to do, and if I don’t like it…I do it anyways.
There are somethings I draw the line at….
…and having her symptoms of PMS is over the limit.
edlives: wtf? that’s so normal though. I try very hard to keep it in check, but when I say “I’m not feeling up for anything,” then back the hell off or I WILL BITE. (Haha… I’m kinda PMSing right now!) (TMI?)
But anyway, moving to another country would be hard. Especially if, say, he wanted us to move to Asia (NO, absolutely not)- he’d have a language barrier because he only speaks English, and I would be really pissy all the time at all the people walking up to me assuming I speak their language… or at all the little people running away, pointing at me, screaming “GODZIRRA…!” (Just kidding! It’s funny. Trust me!)
And yes, there are some things I draw the line… but mostly, no, cuz that’s what love is! There is one big thing I refuse to ever do, and he knows, but I am not going to share that here. =P Use your imagination.
hurray for lion king analogies!
thanks for my awesome mini. [covets]
so cool on those reply buttons!:sssmile:
The “reply” on comments feature is THE BOMB! I’m very happy about this.
I would have given you 1000 e-props, but I gave most of my credits to the Xanga team for announcing this feature.
@zisixi - hehe. I’m glad you like it. Its a bit addictive as a feature, neh?
@Made2sing4Jesus - Yea! I’m glad you like it. :ssgrin:
@joseph - neh doubt!
I’m not a conventional sort and yet I’m an idealist. I think a person’s individual happiness is first and foremost and then adding in a relationship that will “enhance” one’s life is secondary. I think a lot of resentment is built when people in relationships do things they don’t really want to do, but they do it to please their significant others. Ideally for me — I would be in a relationship with someone who had similar passions and interests as me. I guess the forcus should always be win-win. I know in American society “compromise” is encouraged, but I don’t believe in it. I believe that you can have your cake and eat it.
I think when something is truly in sync and harmony, thinks fall together — almost effortlessly.
@SeoulSpirit8 - i think a lot of people’s problems stem from when they don’t actually know what they want to do.
i wouldn’t kill someone, unless it was self defense. also, i wouldn’t let her put makeup on me…